to Ask Your Officiant
as with all your other wedding vendors, the Officiant you
choose should match your personal style and the type of
wedding ceremony that you'd like to have. For instance,
you may not choose the same Officiant for an informal wedding
in the park versus a formal religious ceremony in a church.
Your Officiant may ask to meet with you several times before
the wedding to discuss your feelings about love, marriage,
commitment and sometimes religious beliefs.
you marry us if we are of different faiths?
Will you marry us if one or both of us have been previously
Will you marry us if we are not current members of your
church? If not, can we inquire about becoming a member?
Do you require pre-marital or religious counseling before
getting married? If so, what does that entail? Could you
allow another Officiant (possibly of a different religion
or a relative) to take part in the ceremony?
we allowed to write our own wedding vows or must we use
the traditional vows?
there any restrictions on the types of readings that can
Can we use contemporary readings or are they required to
be religious or scripture readings?
there any restrictions on the type of music that can be
Can we use contemporary songs?
Can we bring our own musicians or must they be affiliated
with the church?
Are there any restrictions on wedding attire? Some churches
may have rules about bare shoulders or skirt lengths.
there any restrictions on photography? Some churches may
limit or may not allow ANY flash photography. Others may
have restrictions on where the photographer may and may
Is it permissible to videotape the ceremony? Are there any
restrictions for the videographer?
there any items or decorations that would be included? Such
as candles, candelabras or pew decorations?
Can we use an aisle runner?
Is a candle light service permitted?
Are we allowed to take the floral arrangements to the reception?
Are we allowed to throw rice or birdseed outside the church?
What about rose petals or bubbles?
wedding date we've chosen available? What time can we hold
How many guests will the church hold?
Is there another wedding scheduled on the same day?
Is there a room for the bride and her attendants to stay
"out of sight" or "freshen up" before
the ceremony begins?
Can we hold a receiving line outside the church? What happens
if it rains?
What about the timing and logistics of obtaining the marriage
license? Officiants are usually well versed in the rules
for their state.
about the Officiant's fee.
Is there a fee for the organist?
Ask if there are any other fees or "donations"
that should be given to the church.