asked the FBs: What you definitely don't want at your shower?
- Too many
people. I prefer a smaller guest list, more intimate, and more
time to spend with each guest. I don't think the shower should
rival the actual wedding, but should be a comfortable atmosphere.
- I don't
want boring conversation, i.e. what the is right way to hang the
toilet paper, or the "bow hat".
- I don't want to sit in a circle in someone's living room and
play embarrassing games with virtual strangers, and open gifts
while people watch. I don't want ANYONE to make me wear a silly
- I don't want a lot of stupid games. I think 2 are enough
- Male strippers. Thankfully, we didn't have that!I also did not
appreciate being put in a T-shirt with lifesavers sewn on and
'buck a suck' on it, taken to the bar and gotten really really
drunk. Sure it was fun at the time, but not exactly the kind of
thing you tell your kids about!
- Ummm, I could have done without opening the gifts in front of
everyone! I really don't like doing this, but my mother insisted,
so I opened like 20 gifts of lingerie in front of my guests!
- Hmmmmm.. a stripper...nope NO sir..
- I don't want to open my gifts while sitting in a big chair with
an even bigger bow-hat on. I'd rather have my BMS open them, log
them and put them on a display table.
- Brats and affiliated emotions, characteristics, etc. and awful
food. Games! I don't want games.
- Big group of loud people that I have to be nice to for hours
while someone is striping.
- A lot of
focus on the gifts isn't what I have in mind. it doesn't matter
who brings what, it's more important to have a good time visiting
with my guests. also, I'm not interested in silly hats.
- People feeling uncomfortable because they don't know anyone.
I would want to focus on talking to everyone and having everyone
interact with eachother.
- Shower - silly hat; stupid games
Stagette - strippers (although I heard there's a male belly dancer
in Edmonton -- supposed to be very rare -- that would be interesting!);
focus on drinking
- What don't I want at my shower? The older women FIGHTING over
who takes home what cookies! I swear I cringe every time I see
a woman take tin foil out of her purse to take EXTRA cookies home
(hint: last shower I went to the MOH solved the cookie fight problem
by putting an EQUAL amount of cookies in disposable plastic containers
with ribbon tied around them to each woman! I wanted to kiss her
when I saw that!!). Also I don't want any fighting..like women
fighting over who really won what game!
- I don't want strangers. I don't want all the focus to be on
me and my gifts. I don't want the guests to be bored.
- I don't
want to open my gifts while sitting in a big chair with an even
bigger bow-hat on. I'd rather have my BMS open them, log them
and put them on a display table.
- I would not want any games, or opening gifts in front of everyone
while they sit in a circle around me and watch. I like the BM's
opening gifts and putting them on display idea!
- The food and host home was perfect. All the food was home made
and there are some fantastic cooks in my family. It was self-serve,
so that was good too.
asked the FBs: What was wrong at the worst shower you ever attended?
- No shade.
The shower was held outdoors in the blazing August sun, with no
shade to take cover under. The food was brought out at the very
end (also in direct sunlight) when many of the guests started
to leave. It was an incredibly hot day, many guests started to
feel the effects of the heat (that's why they left very early),
and I wasn't the only one that got sunburned.
- As always, the gifts were opened in a big circle (on very uncomfortable
chairs in a much-too-small room), and of course the price ranges
of the gifts varied wildly. Those who brought less expensive gifts
looked uncomfortable, as did those who spent a lot.
- Some guests didn't really want to be there, EX:a mother and
maybe a stepmother but there isn't really anything you can do
about that except asked them to be civilized for a few hours
- The other shower I went to was for a sorority sister and it
was a combo bridal shower/bachelorette. I missed the shower part
and showed up after everyone had already started drinking (which
is not a problem!) I guess it just wasn't very "bridal shower-y"
to me...to have everyone go from opening gifts to dancing with
a stripper!!!! LOL!
- I went to a huge Italian shower at a hall years ago. For over
2 hours I watched the bride open one gift at a time, get up, find
the person that gave it to her and give her a kiss. I thought
it would never end.
- Too many people, Too late in the afternoon, Too many games
- Screaming and crying little people and very snotty big people.
- A shower for a women being married for the third time and a
room full of man hating divorced women how were calculating the
profit margin of the upcoming marriage and how long she would
have to stay married to him in order to cash in. (I'm serious
this happened). The marriage is now over and she has a new house.
- It was mandatory for me to pay a certain amount towards a group
gift. a lower income person might have had trouble coming up with
that amount, and there's no need to make someone feel bad about
their financial situation. the other thing was
- The bride didn't come shake my hand or thank me. it wasn't a
large shower - a little more thoughtfulness goes a long way
- I again did not know anyone and barely new the bride and I was
left sitting in a corner until I felt it was time to leave. I
hated every minute of it. If you have someone at your bridal shower
you barely know, take the time to get to know them PLEASE.
- The worst one was the shower I wasn't invited to, but should
have been -- was surprised to hear from a friend that the shower
had happened and they hadn't invited me! -- long story but it
brought up some ugly stuff
- The shower was great but I didn't like being outside with no
shade and no sunscreen.
- People who didn't know each other were left to their own devices.
Lack of anything "fun" to do.
- This little princess opened for FOUR HOURS!!!! There were 130
women in an atrium, mid afternoon...think sweating your ass off!!
(and this one did not thank anyone, just kept the assembly line
of BMS passing the gifts as she sat in a "princess chair"
passing them to her MOH who announced over a microphone at a podium
what the gift was.
- We played games and one of them was putting a pencil in a beer
bottle that was tied to a string that was tied to your waist.
(You couldn't use your hands.) I didn't like that at all, people
looking at you and laughing while you look like an a$$. No thanks!