think we all know how happy and excited your bride is
and how lost you feel. We are here to try and help out
a little. Regardless of what you've heard, or think, it's
your day too. By all means, if you have any ideas, speak
up or forever hold your peace. Most grooms, for some reason,
withdraw themselves from the wedding planning process,
this is not necessary. Your fiance will love you even
more if you show some enthusiasm for your wedding. Can
you imagine what it would be like if you had to do all
the planning by yourself. If you attend the bridal shows
with her, you'll be able to speak to and judge the wedding
industry better. You will become more familiar with what
things should cost and when you're getting a deal. You
might want to consider asking your bride if you can find
a photographer, videographer and disc jockey, since it's
mostly men you'll be dealing with in these industries.
put together a monthly checklist for you to use as a guide.
It takes you through the wedding process over a one year
period. Good luck and we hope it helps.
TO 10 MONTHS BEFORE
with your bride to book your services like the Reception
Venue, Church, Photographer, Videographer, Florist, Caterer
(if necessary) and Disc Jockey.
TO 8 MONTHS BEFORE
for the bakery that is going to make the wedding cake. Take
care of your transportation needs and if you're getting
custom made wedding bands, start looking into that.
TO 6 MONTHS BEFORE
you haven't already made plans on where you're going to
live after you wed, you better start.
TO 4 MONTHS BEFORE
the sixth month, you should start looking around for your
tuxes and order them. You and your fiance should also sit
down, get comfortable and open up a bunch of travel brochures.
Figure out where you are going to go for your honeymoon.
Don't forget the rehearsal dinner, since it is up to the
groom and his family to host. Make reservations at a favourite
restaurant or decide if you just want a quiet evening at
home. The guest list will consist of you and your bride,
your parents, all the grandparents, the wedding party, and
anyone else you would like to join you. Remember that it
doesn't have to be anything fancy, maybe you would like
to have a barbeque or order take-out, it's up to you. Make
sure both sides of the family have completed their wedding
lists and handed them over to you and your fiance.
TO 3 MONTHS BEFORE
your rings are not being custom made, start shopping. Complete
your final version of the guest list and order your invitations.
Go out and buy any clothes that you'll need for your honeymoon.
TO 4 WEEKS BEFORE
know that you're not going to do this right now, but I'm
going to tell you anyway. Buy your bride's wedding gift.
Buy the gifts for the groomsmen. A month before your wedding
go for a final fitting with your groomsmen and make sure
the tux situation is taken care of. Just a word of advice,
if you rent all the tuxes at the same place, including the
two fathers and the ringbearer, you'll get a better deal.
Don't forget to pick up the wedding rings. If you are having
your rehearsal dinner at a restaurant, you definitely want
to make those reservations now.
TO 1 WEEK BEFORE
to confirm with all the wedding services you're dealing
with. This should be a priority and the two of you can split
the list. If your honeymoon tickets are ready, go and pick
them up. It's also time to go to the bank and get your travellers
cheques and currency.
WEEK TO GO
a hair cut and a manicure. A manicure is important, because
a lot of times the photographer takes a picture of your
hands with your wedding rings on. Did you remember to buy
the gifts I told you to buy a month ago, if not you better
run!!! Take your fiance out for a romantic evening and give
it to her (we mean the gift again)!!! By the way, it's usually
some form of jewellery that she can wear to the wedding.
It's also time for the rehearsal dinner. This even usually
takes place the same night as the wedding rehearsal, if
you're having one. At the dinner you and your bride will
hand out your gifts to the wedding party. You should also
have your stag over and done with by now, with hopefully
no lasting effects.
most important thing is not to get drunk. You are going
to be nervous and nauseous tomorrow, the last thing you
need is to also be hungover. Make sure all the groomsmen
have the right tuxes and everyone has shined their shoes.
If you're going on your honeymoon right after the wedding,
then now is the time to pack and don't forget your tickets!
forget to eat something, you'll feel better. Give the ring
and wedding license to the bestman and also an envelope
with the payment to the officiant. Give yourself at least
an hour to dress. Put on your best face and knock'em dead
handsome!! (Well, not literally!)
here at the Frugal Bride would like to be one of the first
to congratulate you. Try not to worry about the small things
that might go wrong, it makes for great video footage. To
see a more detailed planner go to the Wedding
Planning Checklist. Cheers to you, you've worked
hard and done a great job. Enjoy yourself and happy honeymoon.