to Ask Your Officiant
with all your other wedding vendors, the Officiant you choose should
match your personal style and the type of wedding ceremony that
you'd like to have. For instance, you may not choose the same Officiant
for an informal wedding in the park versus a formal religious ceremony
in a church. Your Officiant may ask to meet with you several times
before the wedding to discuss your feelings about love, marriage,
commitment and sometimes religious beliefs.
you marry us if we are of different faiths?
you marry us if one or both of us have been previously divorced?
you marry us if we are not current members of your church? If
not, can we inquire about becoming a member?
require pre-marital or religious counselling before getting married?
If so, what does that entail? Could you allow another Officiant
(possibly of a different religion or a relative) to take part
in the ceremony?
we allowed to write our own wedding vows or must we use the traditional
there any restrictions on the types of readings that can be used?
we use contemporary readings or are they required to be religious
or scripture readings?
there any restrictions on the type of music that can be played?
we use contemporary songs?
we bring our own musicians or must they be affiliated with the
there any restrictions on wedding attire? Some churches may have
rules about bare shoulders or skirt lengths.
there any restrictions on photography? Some churches may limit
or may not allow ANY flash photography. Others may have restrictions
on where the photographer may and may not stand.
permissible to videotape the ceremony? Are there any restrictions
for the videographer?
there any items or decorations that would be included? Such as
candles, candelabras or pew decorations?
we use an aisle runner?
candle light service permitted?
we allowed to take the floral arrangements to the reception?
we allowed to throw rice or birdseed outside the church? What
about rose petals or bubbles?
wedding date we've chosen available? What time can we hold the
many guests will the church hold?
another wedding scheduled on the same day?
a room for the bride and her attendants to stay "out of sight"
or "freshen up" before the ceremony begins?
we hold a receiving line outside the church? What happens if it
about the timing and logistics of obtaining the marriage license?
Officiants are usually well versed in the rules for their state.
about the Officiant's fee.
a fee for the organist?
if there are any other fees or "donations" that should
be given to the church.